In a perfect world, every member of your family and your future spouse's family will get along well and celebrate together at your wedding. However, this isn't the case for a lot of families, which can make it stressful when you think about your family's challenges in advance of your big day. You don't want a family member's behavior to sour the day for anyone in attendance — and especially not for you. Fortunately, there are several different strategies that you can employ to reduce the risk of family problems on your big day.
Seat Your Guests Strategically
When it comes to the wedding ceremony itself, family members who do not like each other will likely try to avoid sitting together. This makes your life relatively easy, but if you're concerned that certain family members will compete to sit close to the front and thus may get under each others' skin early on, you might wish to draft up a seating plan for the ceremony that keeps problematic people apart. For the reception, a seating plan is normal, so you'll be able to create a plan that effectively separates family members who have problems with each other.
Consider Not Inviting Certain Individuals
You'd like to think that family members would know how to behave on your big day and avoid creating problems, but this isn't always the case. You may have a family member who has made a scene at past family gatherings and you could justifiably worry that this person may be disruptive during your wedding. In such a scenario, you can choose to not invite this person. Of course, doing so might be a bit challenging and could lead to hard feelings, but this is one of the most important days of your life and you don't want to be on edge about how someone might act.
Delegate Some Helpers
You'll feel more comfortable, especially during the wedding reception when people are mingling together if you have people who will help keep the mood light. Family members who know who the problematic family members are can be ideal for this role. For example, get a couple of cousins who understand the family situation, and ask them in advance to keep an eye on the family members in question. They don't have to serve as babysitters throughout the entire night, but they can try to stay around these family members so that they can quickly intervene and diffuse the situation if things become tense. Ideally, this will prevent you from even noticing that there's an issue.
For more help planning your wedding, contact a wedding planner near you.